“Give them a real smile!” “They’re talking to you - look at them!” “Give Grandma a hug!” “Show them what you learned in school!” These are common phrases that a child may hear on a regular basis. At first glance, they feel normal, expected. They are statements made with the intention of guiding children to cultivate relationships, communicate with others, and develop manners. Those are important skills that should be encouraged, but with nuance. As an adult, many of us woul