Tips For Interacting With An Autistic Child In Your Life

Tips For Interacting With An Autistic Child In Your Life

The relationship between a child and their extended family - aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins - can be a special one. That doesn’t change if a child has autism, but it can be common for those who aren’t familiar with autism to feel unsure of the best ways to connect with them. The good news is that with just a little extra effort, understanding and intention, those worries will fly out the window, opening up the opportunity to become a trusted, safe and important person in their lives. Keep the following tips in mind to help guide your interactions with a high level of care, kindness and respect.

Respect Boundaries

Inquiring about - and respecting - boundaries are a good rule of thumb to practice in general, allowing children to set the tone on what they are most comfortable with. Some individuals, especially those with autism, may not like hugs, loud voices, sudden touches or close proximity. Forcing these situations can make people feel unheard, unsafe and overwhelmed. Instead of assuming what is and isn’t okay, instead ask questions to empower their choices and build trust. An example of this could be, “Would you like a hug, wave or high-five?

Use Clear & Direct Language

Autistic children appreciate and better understand direct, straightforward communication. They often see things in a more literal way, so be specific and even-toned when communicating. Avoid using sarcasm, idioms and inference. For example, instead of saying “hold your horses,” simply say “I need you to wait for minute please.” Another important component to effective communication is to meet the child where they’re at. Some autistic people are nonverbal or uncomfortable with conversation, so visual aids may be necessary. This may look like gestures, pictures, using a tablet, or a variety of other available methods. Find out the most comfortable way to communicate for your family member and engage with them in the way that works best for them.

Learn Their Needs

Sensory overload is very dysregulating to someone with autism, with things like noise, smell, texture or lights causing overstimulation. Becoming too overstimulated can lead to heightened anxiety, discomfort and meltdowns out of their control. Before spending time with an autistic child in your life, find out from their parents or caregiver what you can do to help when they become overstimulated. This may include a comfort item like a weighted blanket, a fidget toy, a soft stuffy, or noise-canceling headphones. Being prepared can help avoid negative outcomes, and knowing how to handle the situation can bring the child peace in the moment. Just be sure to avoid dismissing their discomfort - what seems minor to you very likely feels huge to them.

Let Them Lead

When spending time with an autistic child, sometimes it’s best to let them lead the way. Engagement looks different to every child, and trying to force conversations or activities they aren’t comfortable with can create a dysregulating experience. Instead, build connection on their terms by asking about their interests and leaning in on that. If they enjoy dinosaurs, for example, ask them to tell you about them or bring your own interesting facts to share. When autistic kids are allowed to be themselves and explore what interests them, it allows that passion to flourish. There’s no need to compare their interests to others or encourage activities they don’t enjoy - instead, let them bring their own creativity, unique perspectives and personal interests to the surface, and celebrate them along the way!

Stay Open-Minded

Understanding the best ways to interact and connect with an autistic child in your life can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. Nobody expects you to have all the answers, but being open to learning is important. Instead of relying on stereotypes or making assumptions, just ask! Let parents or caregivers know that you want to make sure you’re being supportive, and ask what works best for the child during their visit with you. Follow their cues and react accordingly, giving them space when needed. There’s no need to aim for perfection - just be willing to listen, learn and love the child exactly as they are. Through time, effort and adjustments when needed, your relationship will thrive as you become a safe, trusted part of their overall support system.

Seek Support

Supporting a child with autism is a journey - but one you don't have to walk alone. If your family is looking for guidance, tools or a deeper understanding of how to help a child in your life grow with confident, ABA Therapy may be a helpful step to take. ABA Therapy isn’t just about behavior - it’s about helping a child grow, communicate and bloom in ways that make sense for them while still celebrating who they are at all times.

At Bloom Behavioral Healthcare LLC, we work closely with families to create personalized, compassionate plans that honor each child’s unique needs.

If you’re interested in learning more about how ABA Therapy with Bloom could help support your family, please contact us today!